Bewildered Wife, Diane Miceli

“I am refering to the scripture that says the marriage bed in not defiled… the word marriage bed comes from the greek or hebrew word meaning coitus… coitus means vaginal-penial intercourse.”

That is incorrect translation. The proper translation for bed in Strong’s Hebrew and Greek Dictionary and Concordance is:

greek κοίτη koitē
meaning a couch; by extension cohabitation; by implication the male sperm: - bed, chambering, X conceive.

Which comes from the
greek κεῖμαι keimai
meaning Middle voice of a primary verb; to lie outstretched (literally or figuratively): - be (appointed, laid up, made, set), lay, lie.

Guess what?? Marriage means Marriage and Bed means Bed LOL
Get a Strong’s Hebrew and Greek Dictionary and Concordance every Christian should have one.

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Terry

It seems as though nobody wants to even listen to what the accused husband might have to say or consider the possibility that a wife can be a batterer.

On January 26th I was arrested for “illegal restraint” after my wife ran to a neighbor who called the police. It was my daughter’s 5th birthday and my wife had become enraged at me because she thought I was ignoring her and my daughter by playing cards with our adopted 8-yr old son after the birthday party - the hand we had dealt her was laying on the table untouched. I refused to be drawn in as she screamed at me that I was destroying the marriage in front of the kids. My son, who is scared to death of her, sat cowering as she escalated almost to hysteria -it was not the 1st time she has exploded like this. She left the room and we quit the game, no longer interested. My daughter had followed my wife and emerged from down the hall announcing “We don’t need to live with a jerk like you anymore - we’re leaving.” I looked down the hall and asked my wife not to say things like that in front of her and noticed she had her coat on. When she emerged and began to put my daughters coat on I became alarmed and asked her where she was going but she refused to respond. I asked again but she continued to ignore me so I stepped in front of her and told her she needed to leave my daughter. She tried to force her way around me but I blocked her way and told her that she needed to leave our daughter. This went on for a few minutes and both kids began crying. At one point my wife set my daughter down so I picked her up and turned to take her into the living room. My wife jumped on my back and bit deeply. My son had run out and gotten the mailman’s attention which helped to break the stalemate. My wife slipped past with my daughter and went to the neighbor’s.

I have never laid a hand on my wife and not once did I raise my hand or even feel an impulse to strike during this awful event - her irrational behavior and escalated temper alarmed me but her refusal to tell me where she was going in her enraged state with my daughter scared me. As I indicated, this was not the first time she has lost her temper. She seems to live with the idea that the angry person controls so if she is not getting what she wants she must escalate until she does.

My wife has admitted in counseling to hating our adopted son and to telling him that he was wrecking the family, among other things, since he was 5-years old. She has told me that she hates it when the kids run to greet me when I come home from work and that she hates it when I spend time with our son. My wife has been diagnosed with ADD and the counselor believes she suffers as an adult from depression and Reactive Attachment Disorder with possible narcissistic tendencies. My wife was adopted and describes her childhood as a horrible experience. Much of this has come out since my arrest.

None of this matters to the young Assistant DA who intends to prosecute me in court. A conviction gives me a record as a violent criminal and is punishable with up to a year in prison. Nor does it seem to matter to my wife who seems disinterested in my case and has never asked me what is going on or how I am doing.

My wife does not acknowledge that she played any role in what happened the day I was arrested, and does not see that she has contributed to any of the difficulties we are having. Immediately after I was arrested my wife spoke with a crisis counseling group who urged her to file for an emergency Order of Protection even though there has been no pattern or history of past violence. During this emotionally charged time they began suggesting to her that she think about how she might actually be an abused woman.

When my wife was examined by the paramedics they found no bruises or other indications that she had been physically harmed. When they examined me they found a full set of teeth indentations and severe bruising on my back along with deep scratches on my arms. What is truly scary is that for me to even try and defend myself seems to “prove” that I am an unrepentant abuser in the eyes of some. To suggest she might be confused is received as an attempt at manipulation to the very crisis counselors who have fed her mind with all kinds of suggestions.

I am not perfect and I honestly try to be aware of my faults, but I am not an abusive person even if my wife believes I might be. I lie awake restlessly if we have had an arguement that is not resolved and has left hurt feelings. I love to spend time with my children and notice when their countenance is down and they are in need of encouragement rather than correction or criticism. I care deeply for my wife and ache for the child she was. And I have become so skittish that I can’t help thinking about the all-seeing crisis counselor who believes they can see through me to an “inner abuser” that does not actually exist.

I want to find a christian wife that knows that jesus is God

but real christians are very very hard to find
whats a man to do in this crazy world???????
I raised four children alone for fourteen years
now i am fourty one and still alone

I want a wife and friend and lover for life
why dont woman want a good man anymore?

Robert
ontario canada
Integrity@cyg.net

A few of the comments on this page may be true. Micahel Tibbets suggests that evil forces are behind Barack’s campaign. I would say the same about John’s campaign. Paul said that evil is always at work within us. So, we are all guilty of sin that we should all repent on a daily basis. The “anything goes lifestyle” is another such comment. I wonder what parents would think if their kids came up pregnant. I wonder what you as Christians would think if your kids came to you and say the very things about you that you say about any of the candidates.

A friend sent me this article about Bristol Palin. I see this everyday as I am an African American female and see these types of racist remarks on a daily basis. What’s so bad is that people are generally ignorant, don’t know the facts, repeat what they have been told, and then these things become their guiding perceptions. There is something fundamentally wrong when we can’t do the Jesus asked us to do. That is “Love your neighbor as yourself” as Christ Himself loves the Church. We are all sinners saved by grace but some of us believe we are above others in discerning and understanding the truth of the Bible. We should all be continually growing on a daily basis to drive every though not like God and bring it under submission. If people like yourselves subscribe to these types of thoughts, then my decision is clear. That is not to support this site or any other site that can’t treat all people fairly.

Here is the article a friend sent me.
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What If Bristol Palin Were Black?

Christian-right leaders and conservative stalwarts have praised the decision of Bristol Palin, the daughter of Governor Sarah Palin, to carry her child to term. She is 17 and conceived this child out of wedlock. Now imagine she wasn’t the daughter of a prominent Republican politician but an average person. Now imagine she was black. What do you think conservatives would have to say about her? ‘Typical, urban youth with no sense of responsibility raised with loose morals who plans to depend on the state to take care of her child.’ You know it. It’s not within dispute. That’s exactly what they would say.

Barack Obama has told everyone to lay off this because it is a personal, family matter. Yes, but it also has public policy ramifications. Governor Palin is for abstinence only education. Well, that obviously didn’t work. Has she learned her lesson? Will she now amend her policy position on this matter given her personal record of failure in implementing this ridiculous stance?

Notice I am not blaming Bristol. Quite the opposite. People like me are the ones that defend the Bristols of the world. It is conservatives like James Dobson, Rush Limbaugh and yes, Governor Palin, who usually attack people who find themselves in Bristol’s situation. They demand a dogmatic adherenceto moral strictures and chastise and belittle women who have children out of wedlock. Especially if they are women of color.

Which brings us back toObama. Do you think the Republicans would lay off of Obama if his 17 year-old daughter had gotten pregnant out of wedlock? You know the answer to that question. Everyone does.

‘This is what the permissive liberal attitude gets you. If you allow your children to think everything is acceptable, they have no boundaries. They wind up getting themselves in trouble like this. It’s a predictable result of the liberal lifestyle.’ And that’s before the subtle and not so subtle racial implications are brought into this. There is a constant double-standard of how black and white people and politicians are covered in this country. When a young black girl gets pregnant, she’s looking to get money from welfare. When a young white woman gets pregnant, she made an unfortunate mistake and her family is being supportive in trying to help the make the best of it.

Cindy McCain was addicted to drugs and stole from her own charity to feed her addiction. Now what do you think the Republicans would have done if Michelle Obama had done that? How do you think the press would have covered it? You think they would have called it a simple mistake and moved on?

When presented with these examples, no matter who you are, you know in your heart that this double standard exists. All of this is not said to condemn Bristol Palin or Cindy McCain. This is to get you to think twice about your own assumptions about the next time you hear a story of a young African-American woman who got pregnant in the inner city or a minority who got addicted to drugs and committed a crime to feed that addiction.

There but for the grace of God go Bristol Palin and Cindy McCain

I believe Guardian Angel Michael, the Warrior Angel, gave you those words to speak. In God’s Heaven there are no Coincidences.

Obama may not be Satan but there are forces in this country and beyond that I believe are Evil and supporting his candidacy. I believe this election is about saving the very Soul of this Country against these same forces that support and tyrannically promote the “Anything Goes Lifestyle.” Some of this support is intentional and some other of it comes out of Historical and Biblical Ignorance.
Either way, the result is the same.

Continued Blessings to you, to your Family and to your Dad, Gary, and his extended Family. The Smalley Family is doing yeoman work, God’s Heart’s Desire, in strengthening and restoring our Families, particularly the American Family.

Michael Tibbetts

From Christians, who for nearly 80 years now have been calling good evil and evil good by separating what God has joined together.

God has joined together sexual intercourse and marriage, sexual intercourse and procreation, and procreation and marriage. Indeed, He has joined together the three inseparably, sexual intercourse, procreation and marriage. They are a package. The are the three threads of a a single cloth. God’s law is that sexual intercourse may take place only within marriage and that sexual intercourse must be open to new life.

For 19 centuries, Christians of all traditions accepted this truth. The use of contraception was universally condemned by Protestants, Catholics and Orthodox. Anyone who has read on the subject is forced to admit at least this much. Luther and Calvin condemned the practice in no uncertain terms and conservative Protestant resistance during the first third of the last century to calls for its acceptance was at least as intense as is such opposition to abortion and same-sex marriage in our own day. See, e.g., David Kennedy, Birth Control in America. The recognized that “a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12b (ESV)

Then, beginning with the Anglican Communion in 1930, one Christian denomination after another began approving separating sexual intercourse from procreation. With that, we lost the moral authority to condemn others who separated sexual intercourse from marriage and, of course, procreation from marriage. We pulled out one of the threads and the cloth began to unravel. We weakened the cord by removing one of its three strands.

As C.S. Lewis observed, not with approval, “[T]he modern situation permits and demands a new sexual morality” because “the old taboos served some real purpose in helping to preserve the species, but contraceptives have modified this and we can now abandon many of the taboos.” And so we have.

As Pogo observed, we have met the enemy and he is us. We have rejected Solomon’s warning and removed the ancient landmark our forefathers sat. Christians who accept contraception and, thus, approve of separating what God has joined together (sexual intercourse and procreation) cannot, without being hypocrites, condemn others who separate sexual intercourse and marriage and procreation and marriage, all which God has also joined together in one unit, a single piece of cloth or a threefold cord. The three (sexual intercourse, procreation and marriage) go together, just as God intended. One cannot be separated from the other two without the whole piece of clothe coming unraveled or the cord being weakened and more subject to breaking.

We Christians are the ones who began the unraveling process when we separated procreation from sexual intercourse. And only we can begin to begin the process of putting back together again what we have separated. Until we have done so, we are in no position to condemn others for separating other aspects of the three part union which God joined together.

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.

Matthew 7:1-5 (ESV)

Hilkiah

(2 Kings 22. King Josiah, after Hikiah rediscovered the Book of the Law, “For great is the wrath of the Lord that is kindled against us, because our fathers have not obeyed the words of this book, to do according to all that is written concerning us.”)

Brenda Branson
bren1756@yahoo.com
270-871-7812
http://www.brokenpeople.org

If your church or organization would like further training about domestic violence and how to minister to families in crisis, please contact me. Booking requirements are traveling expenses and love offering–no set fees.

Please refer people to http://www.brokenpeople.org for free resources and online help.

Thanks,
Brenda Branson

Be happy with the way others choose to do the job, everyone has different ways to doing things, folding towels, unpacking dishwashers, etc. It doesn’t pay to be too critical.

Pavel Goberman

Let’s also be clear that the vast majority of cases are linked to HPV infection. As I also mentioned about 85% of cervical cancer caused by HPV infection is covered by this vaccination. Gardasil (the only vaccine currently on the market, and there are more to come) covers the four most common viral strains of HPV, not all of them related to cervical cancer.

Women still need to get their annual well woman exams/PAP smears to detect for cervical cancer or pre-cancerous changes because, as Kami noted from her personal experience, women can still get cervical cancer. The vaccine just decreases your chance, significantly, of getting cervical cancer from these four viral strains of HPV linked to cervical cancer, cervical dysplasia (pre-cancerous changes), and genital warts.