The most important thing not to do on your honeymoon!

You’re traveling to some exotic location and beginning a lifetime journey with each other and you’ve planned for everything…well…almost everything. What is the most important thing you should not do on your honeymoon?

If you can’t answer this question, then your honeymoon could end up a total disaster (all you need to do is read Don’t Date Naked or my upcoming book More than a Match to understand why I know this so well ).

No one gave me this advice, and it really did hurt my honeymoon, my wife and I don’t even talk about our honeymoon because it was such a disaster. In fact, we paid for another trip about 8 months into our marriage just to try and put our honeymoon behind us!

The one thing you can’t do on your honeymoon is fight. Seems obvious, but please listen carefully, you will hurt each other’s feelings on your honeymoon. When your feelings get hurt, what do you do? You look at your new spouse and say exactly the following, “Honey, that hurt my feelings, but we’ll talk about this when we get back. I want to keep this trip fun.”

Stop laughing! This is the most important thing you could learn about keeping your honeymoon safe. Too many couples get into arguments on their honeymoon (like me and my wife) and end up ruining the trip. Vacations, date nights, family trips, movie night, or whatever you do for fun needs to be kept SACRED.

If you want to be satisfied, Dr. John Gottman tells us that couples who make it 20 years or longer have a 5 to 1 ratio of positive experiences to every negative experience. That is why you don’t want to wait till the big date night or trip to bring up something hurtful or something that needs to be worked on in the marriage. Plan ahead and bring that up when you can deal with it effectively and not during fun time.