What is love?
September 11, 2008 by Michael Smalley
A friend of mine recently asked:
Hi Michael I have a favor to ask you…What is the different between love and being in love?
Here was my answer, I thought many of you might like reading this response and I pray it is encouraging to you:
What a great question Belky! Here’s the difference, when you are “in love”, that can always go away, because feelings come and go. That kind of love is situational and based on feelings and how well you’re being treated or feel at the time. But when you love someone, that is a decision and is not prone to emotional quirks, but rather fortified through commitment. That is the kind of love that is real. And incidentally, when you choose to love someone, no matter what, the feelings of love always follow =]
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I agree with the love, in love thing…Ive always felt that the in love thing was a bunch of nonscense…I agree love is a choice…I agree that when we choose to love, we love in season and out of season…We love whether our mate is at their supreme best or not…Ladies, there will be a time, when even he doesnt look the best to you..LOVE IS A CHOICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
from what I noticed in potential past relationships, the women Ive dated would say, I love you, but not in love with you…Basically either an excuse, or they are listening to the worldly advice…Love is a choice…
What is really needed, is for people that love each other, is that they dont take each other for granted…Most seem to view, that once they are on the hook, all you have to do is real her or him in…Hahaha…Most marriage counselors would say, that if a relationship is failing , to remember how you treated them, in the start of the relationship… Face it, ladies like flowers…Remember her, and buy flowers every once in a while…Why this advice hasnt helped me, I dont know…But love chooses to love in everything, the good and the bad…