What to do when your spouse won’t go to counseling

This is not an uncommon issue couples have when their marriage gets stressed out. My first bit of advice is to relax and take a deep breath.   You are not the only person on the planet who’s spouse will not go to counseling. Do not feel ashamed, embarrassed, or isolated.  These emotions will only make things worse. You can feel sad that your spouse refuses to go to counseling, but you do not want your attitude to turn nasty because of his or her refusal.

What you can do is go to counseling.  There is a misconception about the need for both the husband and wife to attend counseling together.  This is not totally necessary.  You can experience incredible change simply by changing yourself.  Whatever dysfunctional pattern your marriages has adopted, when you finally start doing things differently, the pattern is permanently changed.