When is it time to just divorce?
February 27, 2007 by Michael Smalley
Is there ever a time you should simply throw in the towel and serve papers? You’ve tried everything and it just doesn’t seem like your spouse is going to respond, when is enough…enough? Listen to my latest podcast to find out the answer to this incredibly difficult question!
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I have listened to this podcast and the quesiton I have is how do I work on a relationship with a husband that is not a believer and who is attending counseling but still trying to maintain inappropriate relationships with other women, old classmates, ex girlfriends, new women he has just met? How do I work on something that is being undermined every step of the way.
The podcast was very good, but this is a situation not addressed. Four months ago my wife of 25 years walked out on our marriage and 3 kids for a relationship with another man. She cites “unhappiness” as her primary reason. I have loved my wife deeply and demonstrated that love to her, but recently, it didn’t seem to be enough. Her act shocked many people as we have served the Lord most of the years of our marriage. I now have to deal with the fallout of her actions on a daily basis with my kids (who want no association with her), our finances, our home… while she lives her own life away from us. We have not yet filed for divorce. My question is, how am I supposed to act toward her now in the midst of the deepest hurt of my life? Do I continue to love her or do I accept her actions as final and move on with my life? My life is in limbo regarding her and I’m running out of patience. I am being told by some to go ahead and file for divorce, but scripturally, I don’t see the freedom to do that.
I want to thank both of you for taking the time to comment
I can’t imagine how difficult it must have been to write both of your comments and then post them to the site. But you are brave and wise in doing it.
You are correct in saying that I did not address your specific issue, and an affair is a justifialbe and Biblical reason to end your marriage. I’m going to podcast this issue tomorrow. Because I can’t possibly type all the things I want to say (write) right now…so come back tomorrow and listen to what I have to say about all this.